These are two statements I tested out with my family. While the requests I made were pretty mild, these were designed to incite a stronger reaction.<\/p>\n
I don’t think I want kids.<\/strong><\/p>\n Nonchalant tone, clearly spoken; Leaning back, feet up; chest out, chin up; steepling the hands; Eye contact (not too intense)<\/em><\/p>\n This one was announced collectively to all three ladies. We were all chatting in the kitchen- my grandma was baking (the best pumpkin desert I’ve ever had). The conversation turned towards a couple my mom is friends with- they finally got pregnant after trying for several years. I then added in “I don’t think I want kids<\/strong>“.<\/p>\n Here is the conversation:<\/p>\n The subject manner changed soon and things were amicable again. My sister didn’t seem too bothered by what I had to say and took my word at it- no argument. My Grandmother looked somewhat concerned but didn’t try to press the matter. My Mother was actually upset (I do feel a little guilty) and tried to bring it back up, but I responded in the same manner- she dropped it.<\/p>\n *Did not wanna bring this one up with Grandpa.<\/p>\n I’d rather elope than have a wedding.<\/strong><\/p>\n Hesitant tone; eye contact (fearful), looking upward at person; hunched shoulders, curved spine; fidgeting<\/em><\/p>\n I brought this up in pairs.<\/p>\n I let it drop after these comments, I wanted to keep with the body language\/attitude I started with.<\/p>\n My Grandfather more or less dismissed it with a laugh. I’m assuming he was going off my mom’s immediate “no”.<\/p>\n My mom was surprisingly pretty direct with me, taking on a dominant role. Not that I ignore authority of my mother (mostly) but she usually lets me be because I was never easily managed. I believe the change to a submissive demeanor influenced this.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n My grandma’s response didn’t surprise me much. She was driving, therefore didn’t really get to look much at me, just hear my voice and glance.<\/p>\n My sister, however, did surprise me. She usually goes along with what I say, especially in front of others. But it’s not a stretch for her feelings to be hurt by this.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" These are two statements I tested out with my family. While the requests I made were pretty mild, these were designed to incite a stronger reaction. I don’t think I want kids. Nonchalant tone, clearly spoken; Leaning back, feet up; chest out, chin up; steepling the hands; Eye contact (not too intense) This one was announced collectively to all three ladies. We were all chatting in the kitchen- my grandma was baking (the best pumpkin desert I’ve ever had). The…<\/p>\n\n
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